Hello there! My name is Carla.
I've dedicated my career to helping people discover how they can best be there for themselves so they can better be there for those they love.
What can you expect with me?
Redefining what confidence means:
To me people who were confident are the ones who brag about themselves and hog the spotlight no matter who else is at a disadvantage. Since changing my mindset to instead see confidence as: knowing what you're excellent at and where your opportunities lie so that when needed I can answer questions like "who are you beyond your name?", I now feel strong and resilient to the people who belittle, condescend and bully others.
Redefining what selfish means:
Being selfish to me used to mean only looking out for themselves and no-one else. This does exist, unfortunately, but that's the bad definition. Instead I've change my mindset to see this as: being there for yourself as you would be others and learning to respect, admire and value who you are
Redefining who you are:
Who are you? Who do you want to be? What do you want? What motivates and inspires you? And most of all what makes you happy and can pick you up from dark places? Once we have the detailed answers, we can plan the future you want.
My experiences in life have been good and bad, like everyone. In no particular order, I'd like to share some with you:
My new positive mindset vs
My old negative mindset:
I learned how to tune inward and develop self-respect
I felt like I knew nothing really about myself
I learned how to deal with anger, rejection, disappointment and negative energy
I've been lied to, manipulated, mislead, heartbroken and in relationships with pessimistic people
I learned how to overcome change that wasn't my choice
I lost my job - unexpected redundancy twice in less than 2 years
I learned how to cope in stressful situations
I purchased a property on my own (2 months before said redundancy)
I learned how to create my own paths and keep people in my life who encourage my growth
I've felt stuck in my career and relationships and generally unhappy
I learned how to tell my own story and that it's okay too let people will have their own reaction
I was adopted as a baby by my adoptive grandparents (not the bad part!) and faced lots of questions and bullying from a young age
I learned that it's okay to decide who I have in my life and there are billions of people to choose from around the world
I lost and learned to choose who the people are in my life (not easy or sometimes nice but is necessary)
I learned that giving time and space to self-discovery is one of the most rewarding things you can do
I was confused by my sexuality. I spent 15 years getting to a place of self-acceptance that I'm bisexual and what that means for me
These have been some of the bigger parts of my 31 years on this planet so far. If I can do it... you can too!
With Coaching, the most mind-blowing thing I've learned is how to identify limiting beliefs and transform them into empowering ones. With Therapy, I've learned how to overcome anxiety and severe depression and found some root causes of what has shaped me.
When it comes to mental health there is no such thing as a 'one size fits all' approach. Your past actions don't define who you are. We all make mistakes and decisions which turn out to be a bad fit. But it's the way you chose to recover from it that will introduce you to who you really, truly are.
I can help you discover your own values, what you want in life and how to get there because I've done it myself, time and time again. The truth is, you have all the answers. Finding them is a new journey I'm here to guide you through.
"We all struggle in our own unique ways. We regain strength in our own unique ways."
If you want to even learn more about me, and in more detail, I'm currently working on starting a blog in the near future. Which will also include ways to see things from a more positive and curious perspective. Stay tuned!