Hello there! My name is Carla and I'm a Certified Life Coach
"I'm dedicating my career to helping people be there for themselves so they can better be there for those they love."
Self-love comes from a place of discovery, empowerment, and change. I know individually these can be scary... let alone combined. This is why I've made it my sole career focus to help people to overcome the barriers preventing them from the life they want.
I've learned the hard way, despite people telling me for years, that being there for yourself, gives the strongest foundation to be there for others.
I've always been, what would be considered, a 'do-gooder' - someone who puts other's needs before their own. While this is rewarding and who I am, hence my career choice, I've learned the hard way that to be there for others in the way they need and deserve I first need to take care of myself.
Within that, I need to know; who I am, what I want, what motivates and inspires me and most of all what makes me happy and can pick me up from dark places.
My experiences in life have been good and bad, like everyone. In no particular order, I'd like to share some with you:
Some of the good:
I learned how to tune inward and love myself
I learned how to deal with anger, rejection, disappointment and negative energy
I learned how to overcome change that isn't my choice
I learned how to cope in stressful situations
I learned how to create my own paths
I learned how to tell my own story and that it's okay too, everyone will have their own reaction
I learned that it's okay to decide who I have in my life and there are billions of people to choose from around the world
I learned that giving time and space to self-discovery is one of the most rewarding things you can do
Some of the bad:
I felt like I knew nothing really about myself
I've been lied to, manipulated, mislead and heartbroken in relationships
I lost my job due to sudden redundancy
I purchased a property on my own (2 months before said redundancy)
I've felt stuck in my career and wasn't happy at work
I was adopted as a baby by my adoptive grandparents (not the bad part!) and faced lots of questions and advice from a young age
I lost and learned to choose who the people are in my life (not easy or sometimes nice but is necessary)
I was confused by my sexuality. I spent 15 years getting to a place of self-acceptance that I'm bisexual and what that means for me
See what I did there?
These have been some of the bigger parts of my 30 years on this planet so far. If I can do it... you can too!
With Coaching, the most mind-blowing thing I've learned is how to identify limiting beliefs and transform them into empowering ones. With Therapy, I've learned how to overcome anxiety and severe depression and found some root causes of what has shaped me.
When it comes to mental health there is no such thing as a 'one size fits all' approach. Your past actions don't define who you are. We all make mistakes and decisions which turn out to be a bad fit. But it's the way you chose to recover from it that will introduce you to who you really, truly are.
I can only now help people discover their own values, what they want in life and how to get there because I've done it, and will continue to do it myself. The truth is, you have all the answers. Finding them is a new journey I'm here to guide you through.
"We all struggle in our own unique ways. We regain strength in our own unique ways."
If you want to even learn more about me, and in more detail, I'm currently working on starting a blog in the near future. Which will also include ways to see things from a more positive and curious perspective. Stay tuned!